Luckily at Greenfield Community School we are blessed with an diverse and accepting student body. While instances of bullying in the school are rare, chances are you will run into a bully at some point in your life. It is important to understand more about what makes a bully a bully and how to avoid being bullied. This week is we celebrated International Kindness Day and held assemblies against bullying. Here are a few take away notes from our assemblies conducted by our counsellor Ms. Maria Margossian.
Facts about Bullying and how to avoid it
Did you know?
The word “bully” used to mean the total opposite of what it means now. Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member or sweetheart. The root of the word comes from Dutch, meaning lover or brother.
Bullying can be . . .
One person making fun of another.
One person trying to beat up another.
A group of people ganging up against others.
The three types of bullying are:
|Physical Bullying||Verbal Bullying||Relationship Bullying|
|Hitting, Kicking, or Pushing someone||Name calling||Refusing to talk to someone
|Stealing, Hiding or ruining someone’s belongings||Teasing||Spreading lies and rumors about someone
|Making someone do something he or she doesn’t want to do||Insulting||Making someone feel left out or rejected
All Bullies have one thing in common:
Something or someone is making them feel insecure.
~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.
- They could have something going on in their family.
- They might not feel like they are getting enough attention from parents or teachers.
- They might have watched their parents or older siblings get their way by being angry and pushy.
- Maybe they are also bullied.
- They might be spoiled by their parents.
Possible Reasons for being a target:
- The bully or the target are either smaller or bigger than most kids their age.
- The target may be a minority.
- May have a disability.
- Maybe you have a name that is not ordinary.
- If you get anxious or upset easily.
- If you usually are alone and don’t have many friends.
- If you don’t have a lot of confidence and don’t stand up for yourself.
What to do in “The Moment:”
|Ignore them !||Don’t get Angry !||Respond to the Bully evenly and firmly !||Turn and walk away !|
|Don’t Cry !||Don’t even look at them !||Turn the comment into a joke !||Go somewhere that an adult is present !|
|Talk about it to someone else !||Write it down so you don’t forget to tell someone !||Remove yourself from the situation !||Talk to an adult !|
|Pretend you didn’t hear them !||Don’t show them that you are upset !||Remember you are not the one with the problem. The bully is !|
Ways to avoid future bullying:
- Don’t bring expensive things or money to school.
- Label your belongings with permanent marker in case they get stolen.
- Avoid unsupervised areas.
- Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up straight, and make eye contact.
- Don’t walk alone, travel with at least one other person.
- Avoid places where bullying happens.
Remember the GOLDEN RULE:
Treat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and when you need it, someone will stand up for you.
Contributed by: Maria Margossian